Hating

There are different variations of hating, but in all cases, what should be clear is that the person who is hating is most likely suffering from a case of self-hate or dissatisfaction.

Think about it, why else would a person hate on another person? People who are pleased with themselves are too busy focused on their own situations to even have anything to say about what another person is doing. For every minute you hate on a person's life, that's a minute you waste by not improving your own life.

To keep it real (which is my most favorite thing I like to do now), I have been there. There was a time where I was extremely unhappy with my life, hurt by things I thought people did to me and the best thing for me to do to feel better was talk about other people. I thought it was alleviating the pain from the state of my life when in actually, it was setting me back, because I could have been evaluating self instead of someone who wasn't doing anything to help me in the first place.

Where I'm from, hating is the norm and what's worse, some of the biggest haters are the most famous (yet only locally)and are usually men. In my profession, I see a lot. It's as if the expectations of women and men have completely flipped and now men are the golddiggers and gossipers while the women are the providers and go-getters. I've seen how guys talk about each other just to pretend to be best friends the next day. Whatever happened to "keeping it real" because me myself, if I don't like a person, they will know because I will say no more than two words to them (if that) and keep it moving.

What kills me is how the haters seem to be the one hollering that everybody is hating on them. My solution to that? Focus on your d@mn self and quit hating on other people. JUST STOP! Stop talking about people, starting rumors and most of all, learn how to appreciate who you are so that hating won't be an issue.