Hating

There are different variations of hating, but in all cases, what should be clear is that the person who is hating is most likely suffering from a case of self-hate or dissatisfaction.

Think about it, why else would a person hate on another person? People who are pleased with themselves are too busy focused on their own situations to even have anything to say about what another person is doing. For every minute you hate on a person's life, that's a minute you waste by not improving your own life.

To keep it real (which is my most favorite thing I like to do now), I have been there. There was a time where I was extremely unhappy with my life, hurt by things I thought people did to me and the best thing for me to do to feel better was talk about other people. I thought it was alleviating the pain from the state of my life when in actually, it was setting me back, because I could have been evaluating self instead of someone who wasn't doing anything to help me in the first place.

Where I'm from, hating is the norm and what's worse, some of the biggest haters are the most famous (yet only locally)and are usually men. In my profession, I see a lot. It's as if the expectations of women and men have completely flipped and now men are the golddiggers and gossipers while the women are the providers and go-getters. I've seen how guys talk about each other just to pretend to be best friends the next day. Whatever happened to "keeping it real" because me myself, if I don't like a person, they will know because I will say no more than two words to them (if that) and keep it moving.

What kills me is how the haters seem to be the one hollering that everybody is hating on them. My solution to that? Focus on your d@mn self and quit hating on other people. JUST STOP! Stop talking about people, starting rumors and most of all, learn how to appreciate who you are so that hating won't be an issue.

Cheating Excuses

Oh My Gee, have I been sleeping under a rock for the past few years or am I really that dang gullible? For all my twit-junkies out there, you guys know the TT (Trending Topic) is #Cheatingexcuses. I won't lie, when I first started looking at the comments, I was laughing, it was mad funny. As I continued to look at more of the comments, I started to get a huge dose of reality, I've been had. MUTHA__CKAS !

People close to me always telling me that I'm too trusting and too gullibe, but I've always thought I was simply very optimistic. Instead of thinking that I was getting played, I'd put my trust in my better half, hoping that my trust wouldn't become betrayed. Sucks to be me huh??? Been learning the hard way that people just can't be trusted.

Like foreal, I am NO angel, but when it comes to relationships, I try to be as fair as my human condition allows. To me, cheating is something I was RAISED not to do. My dad was a cheater and NO MATTER WHAT, my mother stayed faithful and always told me to do the same. She would always say that cheating is disrespectful to spouse and self and I grew up with that mind set. Don't get me wrong, there have been times where I WANTED TO CHEAT SO BAD! Times where I was heartbroken and lied that I've cheated in order to make a person feel worse than they've made me feel, but when it came down to the action, I would always hear my mother's voice in my head saying "It's better to break up than to cheat" and come to find out, that's a #cheatingexcuse too!

Now I'm sitting here thinking that I should've went with my desires and cheated on the jerks who played me, but at the same time, what would that have solved? With the way I was raised, it would've resulted in me feeling bad, D@mn my mother, why did she have to raise me so old-fashioned!

Now go figure, Dr. Phil is on and the topic is: "How to Spot a Liar, Confront a Cheat and Escape a Scam Artist" Right on time, I need this...